Love Should Not Hurt | October Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Domestic Violence is often an issue that people don’t like to talk about. Maybe if we ignore it will go away but that is not the case.  In the past  I’ve worked with a domestic violence organization who’s goal was to help victims of domestic violence.  I saw first hand how domestic violence affects the whole family. While in undergrad my sorority sisters and I would hold a program called Love Should Not Hurt, and you would be surprise how many college aged women are dealing with domestic violence be it physical or emotional. Candid conversation would happen on what is really going on in the lives of so many. The fear of victim blaming seemed to  be the reason many never talk about the abuse.

For me the main target of Domestic Violence Awareness Month should include the individual actually committing the abuse.   Yes, domestic violence is a crime. Unless you live in Topeka, Kansas where outrage occurred over the recent decriminalization of domestic violence I feel that if you don’t include the abuser you allow him (or her)  to go out and repeat this behavior.  But, to keep it simple here are my thought:

Victims: Leave. Make a plan, practice the plan, and leave.

Family/Friends: Support the victims. Be an ear. Keep details of what is going on.

Abusers: Stop. Get counseling. Stop. Leave. Get help.

Information on Domestic Violence Awareness Month
In 1995, the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV) convened several national domestic violence organizations – the Family Violence Prevention Fund, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, the National Domestic Violence Hotline and later the National Network to End Domestic Violence – to launch a new effort to support domestic violence programs’ awareness and education efforts for Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), observed annually in October. The collaborative effort became the Domestic Violence Awareness Project (DVAP).

Some links for you

New Jersey Coalition for Battered Women

National Domestic Violence Hotline

Happy Flying,

~Solo Dove~

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